Istri Ideal di Hadapan Pria

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Woman wearing a hijab (Muslim veil or headscarf) at the 2006 Arabic Arts Festival in Liverpool. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Agak sulit mendefinisikan siapa sebenarnya istri ideal di hadapan laki-laki. Karena pandangan seorang pria terhadap masalah ini sangat tergantung pada siapa dan bagaimana dia dia memandangnya. Pandangan pria terhadap istri ideal setidaknya dipengaruhi tiga faktor. Pertama, cara berpikir dan pandangan hidup pria tersebut. Kedua, hawa nafsu pria tersebut. Ketiga, panggilan fitrah dirinya.

Seorang yang bergulat di dunia bisnis boleh jadi memandang bahwa wanita karir merupakan wanita ideal. Pria yang berselera seni memandang bahwa wanita yang menyukai seni merupakan wanita idealnya. Karena cara berpikir, pandangan hidup, dan hobi seseorang sangat berpengaruh dalam menentukan hal ini. Lanjutkan membaca Istri Ideal di Hadapan Pria

Boastful and Refuse Paradise

once proud ... now scrap
once proud … now scrap (Photo credit: Leonard John Matthews)

Boastful attitude may caused by having lots of wealth, the beautiful face, or widely learned. Therefore, it is not amazing when this such virus may injects everyone. Anybody has to be cautious.

Anything we have, indeed, is originated from Allah and it may leaves us or we do leave it at any time. It is often happened in a trice.

Someone who commits good deeds is not proper to be boastful though. Even less until he thinks that the good deeds he did will bring him to the heaven or evade him from the hell-fire. Lanjutkan membaca Boastful and Refuse Paradise

Kesadaran berislam

English: Source:Kashmir in India.
English: Source:Kashmir in India. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Masjid-masjid bertambah banyak. Pemuda dan pelajar serta mahasiswa membanjiri masjid dan mushola. Berbagai kegiatan diadakan di sana. Ramadhan dan hari-hari besar ramai dengan kegiatan keislaman. Acara diskusi dan seminar tentang Islam banyak dikunjungi mahasiswa dan cendekiawan. Pesantren dan pondok didatangi mahasiswa yang ingin belajar Islam kepada kyai-kyai. Kajian-kajian Islam selalu menarik perhatian. Buku-buku tentang Islam membanjiri pasaran dan dinyatakan paling laris. Kita semua mengatakan ini semua sebagai alamat tumbuhnya kesadaran beragama di kalangan ummat Islam.

Banyak pejabat pemerintah menunaikan ibadah haji. Di kantor-kantor pemerintah dan lembaga-lembaga swasta diperintahkan untuk didirikan masjid dan mushola, bahkan juga tempat-tempat hiburan dan wisata. Kita menyebutnya kesadaran mulai tumbuh di lingkungan pejabat muslim.

Lanjutkan membaca Kesadaran berislam

Advice (Quran Sura Al-‘Asr)

والعصر. إنّ الإنسان لفي خُسر. إلّاالّذين أمنوا وعملوا الصّلحت وتواصوبالحقّ وتواصوابالصبر.

QS Al ‘Asr [103]: 1-3

Time
Time (Photo credit: Moyan_Brenn)

In the third verse of sura al ‘Asr above, there are words ‘tawasi bi ‘l-haq’, which means advise each other in the truth. According to Arabic language, the word ‘tawasi’ gets pattern of tafa’ul. So, tawasi is a reciprocal relation of both people. The meaning is that we advise other people in the truth, so do us receive advice from him alike.

Tawasi bi ‘l-haq means each person advise each other in case of righteousness. Meanwhile, the nearest person to advise is they who are in our responsibility and protection, i.e. wife or husband, children and brothers or sisters. Rasulullah s.a.w. used to listen to the advice given by his companions, as mentioned in some events enclosed in the books of sunna and sirah (history). He is narrated always accepts other people’s ideas, even sometimes ignores his own idea. He used to accepts any inputs for the goodness of himself and humankind.

The same things was committed by his companions. Abu Bakr as-Sidiq said in the first khutba (speech) on the podium, “O you all humankind, if you see me in the truth, then help me. And if you see me in fault, then prevent me. Obey me as long as I obey Allah. But, if I do sin to Him, then no reason for you to obey me.”

Each Muslim is a proclaimer of da’wa to Allah. Whoever learns something, he is obliged to apply it and teach other people. This is da’wa. Someone takes da’wa within good words, while others take it within good relationship with uswah hasanah (good model). This is the time for a Muslim not to life within getting busy because of his own business matter, and closes his eyes for the events fall on other Muslims. Tawasi bi ‘l-haq is one of the characteristic of the true Muslim.

Da’wa with Love

As for this recent age, da’wa may not be committed with violence or other ways which bring about hatred and hostility. Indeed, da’wa should get the people closer each other, and doesn’t avoid human beings from the guidance of Allah as well. It should bring about love and mercy, not implant hatred and hostility instead. (al-‘adawa wa ‘l-baghda’)

In the very monumental book, “Da’wa (proselytizing) in the globalisation era” (Khitabuna ‘l-Islam fi ‘Ashr al Awlamah), great scholar of the world, Dr. Yusuf al Qardawi appeal the Muslims to propagate with love. The religion, he said, at the core is love, that is love upon the truth, goodness, and peacefulness.

Da’wa, firstly, should be committed by inviting people to love Allah ta’ala. It’s because Allah is the source of grace, favors, and the Bestower of all goodness. (QS An-Nahl [16]: 53)

Actually, man is arrested of goodness (asar al-ihsan). He inclines to be good and to do goodness to everyone who is good and doing goodness for him. So, why isn’t he good and no to love Allah, the God who bestowed him goodness from the hair top to the toe tip? (QS Luqman [31]: 20)

Secondly, da’wa is committed by inviting people to love the nature. Differs from the Western, Qardawi explained that Islam is not against nature, but love it.

It has been narrated, when Rasulullah‘s tortured by the people of Taif, many people asked him prayed for cursing them. However, Rasul rejected it while he was saying, “For the sake of Allah, I wish from this country would be born your descendants who worship Allah. O, Allah, bestow for them Your guidance, because they, indeed (do misdeed) because of their neglect.” (HR Bukhari and Muslim)

So, Rasulullah had started and gave us uswah hasanah (good pattern) of da’wa with love. Imam al-Shahid Hasan al-Banna continued and urged it. He said, “Naghzu ‘l-naas bi ‘l-hubb la bi ‘l-sayf.” (We will fight against humans with love, not with swords)